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How Do I Talk to My Christian Parents About My Kid’s Gender Exploration?

My kid is exploring their gender and asked me to tell my super Christian parents about it. Should I wait until my kid has settled on an identity that fits them?

Young Children, Dear MKIG, Expression, Telling Others, Religion, GenderGrace MangerJuly 26, 2018#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Extended family, Genderqueer, Questioning, nonbinary, Religion

What if our family disowns my kid?

I accept my son for who he is, but I don’t think the rest of the family will feel the same way. How can I support him if everyone else reacts poorly?

Coming Out, Dear MKIG, Telling OthersGrace MangerJuly 19, 2018#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Coming Out, Extended family

My Daughter's Friend Came Out to Her, What Should I Do?

There's a bully at school, and my daughter's best friend is questioning his sexual orientation. Should I tell his mom?

Bullying, Coming Out, Coming Out, Dear MKIG, Telling Others, Students + TeachersGrace MangerMarch 20, 2018#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Bullying, Coming Out

Nervous About a New Years Kiss

My daughter and her girlfriend will be at our New Years Eve party this year, and I'm not so sure about seeing them kiss at midnight. Can I ask her not to?

Young Children, Dear MKIG, Holidays, Partners, Talking to Young Kids, Telling OthersGrace MangerDecember 27, 2017#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Dating, Extended family, Holidays

My Son Likes Nail Polish, but Our Relatives Gift Only “Boy” Toys

The holiday season is upon us—here's some advice on talking to your relatives about your child's gender nonconforming wish list!

Young Children, Dear MKIG, Expression, Holidays, Telling Others, GenderGrace MangerDecember 7, 2017#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Extended family, Holidays

Coming Out Advice for Muslim Families

LGBT Muslims have existed throughout history, but coming out in Muslim communities does have its obstacles.

Religion, Coming Out, Dear MKIG, Telling OthersGrace MangerNovember 29, 2017#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Islam, Muslim, Religion

Does Worrying About My Gender Nonconforming Son Make Me a Bad Mom?

My gender nonconforming son tends to push boundaries when it comes to clothes, makeup, and hair.

Gender, Dear MKIG, Expression, Gender, Non-Binary, Telling OthersGrace MangerOctober 5, 2017#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Gender expression, Genderqueer, nonbinary

Weddings, Meeting the Family, and Public Displays of Affection

My son and his boyfriend are so touchy-feely, and it makes me uncomfortable. Help!

Dear MKIG, Partners, Telling OthersGrace MangerMay 16, 2017#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Extended family, Weddings

My Son Is Already Bullied for Being Black. Should He Wait to Come Out?

My son is black and gay, and I'm worried about his safety at school.

School + Work, Bullying, Coming Out, Coming Out, Dear MKIG, Peers, Telling OthersGrace MangerMay 1, 2017#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Bullying, Coming Out

How Do I Tell My Church That My Daughter Is Trans?

My 10-year-old daughter has started to transition, and I have to tell our congregation. Help!

Religion, Young Children, Coming Out, Dear MKIG, Telling Others, Transgender, Transitioning, GenderGrace MangerApril 18, 2017#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Coming Out, Religion, trans*, transgender

Why Did He Only Come Out to Me?

My son came out to me a year ago and still hasn't come out to his dad or brother. Is it ok to ask him about it?

Coming Out, Dear MKIG, Telling OthersGrace MangerDecember 22, 2016#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Coming Out

My Daughter Came Out And My Sister Has Been Silent

Adult sibling relationships can be complicated, especially when your daughter comes out and your sister is silent on the subject. What to do?

Coming Out, Dear MKIG, Telling OtherstheparensprojectAugust 2, 2016#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Coming Out, Extended family, Siblings

I Think My Daughter Is Too Public About Her Sexuality

Pretty much everyone shares some part of themselves on social media these days, but one parent is concerned about her daughter posting photos of her and her girlfriend together online.

Dear MKIG, Telling OtherstheparensprojectJuly 21, 2016#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay

Dealing With Homophobic Co-Workers

Coming out as the parent of an LGBTQIA person can be hard, especially if you're unsure about how others will react. Karen Thompson gives advice on dealing with coming out to homophobic co-workers.

School + Work, Dear MKIG, Telling Others, The WorkplacetheparensprojectJune 7, 2016#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Coming Out

When He Thinks Being Gay Is Being A "Sissy"

A mother suspects her son might be gay, and her husband thinks being gay is being a sissy. Julie Tarney offers some great advice on how to navigate this tricky situation.

Gender, Young Children, Dear MKIG, Telling OtherstheparensprojectMarch 31, 2016#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Bullying

Talking to Your Pastor About Leaving His Unaccepting Church

You decided to leave your unfriendly-to-LGBTQIA-folks church after your daughter came out, but now your pastor wants to know why you left. How do you navigate that conversation while also protecting your daughter's privacy?

Religion, Dear MKIG, Telling OtherstheparensprojectFebruary 9, 2016#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Christianity, Coming Out, Religion

Getting Through the Holidays with Homophobic Relatives

Julie Tarney, author of "My Son Wears Heels," gives us a few ways to get through the anger parents may feel around the holidays when they have to spend time with their homophobic relatives.

Dear MKIG, Holidays, Telling OtherstheparensprojectDecember 21, 2015#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Extended family, Holidays

Talking to Young Children About Their Bisexual Sister

Polly Kim gives a worried mom some ways to talk to her younger children about their bisexual sister, such as introducing queer topics into books and conversation.

Young Children, Dear MKIG, Talking to Young Kids, Telling OtherstheparensprojectDecember 4, 2015#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Bisexual, Bisexuality, Pansexuality

Passing Privilege Out in Public

Today, a parent is struggling with the stares and looks of confusion strangers give their trans daughter because she doesn't "pass." In this very important piece, Karen Thompson talks about passing privilege and supporting your child despite other people's disapproval.

Dear MKIG, Expression, Telling Others, Transgender, GendertheparensprojectJuly 30, 2015#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Privilege, trans*, transgender

Keeping My Son's Sexuality a Secret from My Husband

Co-Founder Kristin Russo helps a struggling parent who has been keeping her son's sexuality a secret from her husband for years.

Dear MKIG, Telling OtherstheparensprojectJuly 16, 2015#my kid is gay, #mykidisgay, Advice, Coming Out